SmartParenting.com.ph | Raising kids 0 to 6 years old
Dealing with feelings “Children develop ideas and learn about feelings and expressions from early social interactions with the people around them,” says Agnes Ycasiano, clinical psychologist and facilitator for family seminars at the Franklin Covey Organization Service’s Center for Leadership and Change, Inc., an organization that conducts effectiveness training for teams and individuals. Here are some ways that parents can help kids verbalize their feelings:
- First “feeling” words “Begin with simple words for basic emotions like ‘angry’ or ‘happy,”’ Start with the most basic expressions, and gradually move on to the more complex ones. When you talk about “anger,” it can also mean you’re frustrated, upset, irritated, or annoyed. You can gradually interject these one by one. But don’t rush the big words yet.
- Blue’s cues “You have to look for cues that will help young children express their emotions. With his limited vocabulary, a toddler will resort to tantrums and physical means.
- Listen and learn Your child needs to see that putting her feelings into words really work.
Help your child learn to label what he’s feeling by hinting some “feeling” words, then talk about why she feels that way. Doing so will let her know that you understand her and that you are listening to what she has to say.